Pathological Liars - they lie for the glory of it
I don't often watch Oprah, but last week she had a program on Pathological Liars. Of course I'd heard of them, but really didn't understand what they were all about. It was a great show and threw some light on a male friend I knew for 10 years.
I met this guy in the workplace. His name was RP and he told me he was an orphan as both his parents had died in a car accident. Later on he introduced me to his "Aunty and Uncle" who he later told me were his biological parents. He had to cover up because RP was not his real name - he was on the run from a finance company for defaulting on payments for his video recorder.
That was just the start of a litany of lies - RP now known as SC, claimed to be a member of an intelligence organisation and he was in hiding after accidently killing some terrorists, he told me was a lawyer, he even told me he had been an army officer. He even doctored pictures to support this fake history. The really amazing thing was that when he was challenged and the truth came out, he thought it was a great joke and laughed and laughed.
Once he told me he had to go interstate when his father died suddenly. Of course, everyone was very sympathetic until we found out his father was alive and well. I remember saying to him, "Your father must have been a remarkable man... he is the first person since Jesus Christ to rise from the dead!". Of course, he thought it was funny too. It didn't bother him one bit.
I met his parents and I can see why he turned out like he did. His father was a pedophile and also a chronic liar - there was not one thing he ever said that was truthful. The mother? She knew that both her father and son were liars but preferred to ignore it.
Regarding her son SC, "Oh I know he tells lies and puts me up the gum tree". I think she actually preferred his lies than the truth that he was a loser. He told her he'd finished law school in America. That has to sound better than the truth which was he left school after grade 10.
She knew her husband had sexually interfered with some of the neighbourhood girls but prefered to do nothing. She said, "What was the point? If he went to jail, who would support me? The girls will get over it because all men do it".
Until I saw Oprah's show I never understood how SC and his father could lie openly and gloriously without any regard for the truth or who they were hurting. Were they encouraged by the mother and wife who prefered their lies and twisted truths? Did the father teach it to the son? After a period of years, I believe SC lied because he really enjoyed it and because it gave him power over people who believed his lies. Also, his parents never called him on his lies, so I think he believed it was acceptable to say anything he liked.
I don't know what became of SC because he moved interstate or overseas or wherever 10 years ago. During the whole time I knew him, SC claimed to be a born again Christian and regularly went to church. His father thought he was wonderful because he was a Master Mason and made it as far as the 30th degree.
I for one am glad we are mortal. There has to be an end to the lies sometime - SC's father really died about 7 years ago and I was pleased to hear there was one less pedophile and liar on the planet.
I met this guy in the workplace. His name was RP and he told me he was an orphan as both his parents had died in a car accident. Later on he introduced me to his "Aunty and Uncle" who he later told me were his biological parents. He had to cover up because RP was not his real name - he was on the run from a finance company for defaulting on payments for his video recorder.
That was just the start of a litany of lies - RP now known as SC, claimed to be a member of an intelligence organisation and he was in hiding after accidently killing some terrorists, he told me was a lawyer, he even told me he had been an army officer. He even doctored pictures to support this fake history. The really amazing thing was that when he was challenged and the truth came out, he thought it was a great joke and laughed and laughed.
Once he told me he had to go interstate when his father died suddenly. Of course, everyone was very sympathetic until we found out his father was alive and well. I remember saying to him, "Your father must have been a remarkable man... he is the first person since Jesus Christ to rise from the dead!". Of course, he thought it was funny too. It didn't bother him one bit.
I met his parents and I can see why he turned out like he did. His father was a pedophile and also a chronic liar - there was not one thing he ever said that was truthful. The mother? She knew that both her father and son were liars but preferred to ignore it.
Regarding her son SC, "Oh I know he tells lies and puts me up the gum tree". I think she actually preferred his lies than the truth that he was a loser. He told her he'd finished law school in America. That has to sound better than the truth which was he left school after grade 10.
She knew her husband had sexually interfered with some of the neighbourhood girls but prefered to do nothing. She said, "What was the point? If he went to jail, who would support me? The girls will get over it because all men do it".
Until I saw Oprah's show I never understood how SC and his father could lie openly and gloriously without any regard for the truth or who they were hurting. Were they encouraged by the mother and wife who prefered their lies and twisted truths? Did the father teach it to the son? After a period of years, I believe SC lied because he really enjoyed it and because it gave him power over people who believed his lies. Also, his parents never called him on his lies, so I think he believed it was acceptable to say anything he liked.
I don't know what became of SC because he moved interstate or overseas or wherever 10 years ago. During the whole time I knew him, SC claimed to be a born again Christian and regularly went to church. His father thought he was wonderful because he was a Master Mason and made it as far as the 30th degree.
I for one am glad we are mortal. There has to be an end to the lies sometime - SC's father really died about 7 years ago and I was pleased to hear there was one less pedophile and liar on the planet.
posted by Jacqueline Smith at 6:15 PM
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